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But instead of looking for real gold, he still wants other shiny golden rocks. If this guy was truly looking for the real deal, he would be ecstatic to not have slept with a girl who was probably so trashy as to be infested with STDs, so that he didn’t give a bunch to a future good wife.

Instead, his conclusion was: push for sex next time!

  • 35 Chris October 22, 2011 at 2:55 pm
I’m not an asshole.

Never have been. And hopefully never will be. Oh, I can be pretty cynical about some things, but I was raised to respect others before myself. (Haven’t quite shaken that off yet…)

That said, the whole “acting like an asshole to get women?” I’ve tried it.

It does work.

I used it in only a few situations – none of which were the typical bar/club/party scenario. (I don’t get invited to those things, unless someone needs a DD).

It’s -frightening- how well it works. Even for me! One time a woman just would not leave me alone, despite my rudely telling her to take a hike. (She was bossy and I had an old friend with me. Female friend, from grade school. Who, I might note, said absolutely nothing about my actions…)

As for that “I’ll let you buy me drinks” thing? It’s only happened once, on a first date. There wasn’t a second. Thanks for telling me how entitled you really are, woman. I’m out of here!

What am I saying here? I’m saying that if I perceive acting like a jerk would get me a relationship, I would try it again. No apologies. If that’s what women respond to now, then I can make a go. (May not work because I have very little practice, but hey, worth a shot!)

Being considerate of others, not horribly pushy, showing intelligence instead of arrogance? It just gets me walked all over. I’m DONE with that.

FYI: I’m in the same age group as “Never Nice” above. Right there with you, brother.

  • 36 Chris October 22, 2011 at 2:56 pm

“The only answer I can presently see is for women en masse to change their expectations & behaviour towards men. I don’t know if that’s even possible, whether it’s too hardwired in there or not, but I don’t see any alternative to women at large treating men a lot better than they have been doing.”

Very well said. I would like to see this too. But I’m not holding my breath.