terre says:
December 20, 2010 at 4:49 pm
I can see I’m wasting my time. If you want to get men to marry adulteresses, knock yourself out.

Abbot says:
December 20, 2010 at 5:11 pm
Its not scary at all. The vast majority of women on Earth did not engage in multiple sex detached from feelings. Otherwise, yes, it would be very scary.

Jess says:
December 20, 2010 at 9:59 pm
A hearty laugh at reading all this.
at Tom and others,
I agree with both sides regarding STD. Yes wives do get infection from husbands and there is also an STD explosion in the UK. A huge % of teenagers have a deseases. It’s also true that condoms don’t offer 100% protection.
For this reason I do actually argue against promiscuity but I endorse toms ethical analysis completely.

Abbot says:
December 21, 2010 at 10:42 pm
In summary, after reading much of what is here -
People do, to a wide variation of degree, do consider the physical sex past of someone they are considering to take into their lives. Should that not be? I do not know. Maybe its convenient for some people to not be evaluated on this subject, and so they are vocal about it.
People come in sets, or shall I say, as a spectrum of interrelated traits. If a women is sexual active with multiple men, well then she is probably quite relaxed about it, and maybe a related non-sexual trait is general permissiveness. Some men may not appreciate a women who is so permissive. If a man decides that non-sexual trait is not for him, well there is a higher probability that he would not be dating promiscuous women. If a man likes the thrill of sex early in dating, well he should be prepared to be dating women with many past men because there is a higher chance that is what he will end up with.
If a man would have sex with a woman but not want more from her because she is too “out and about” well, really, that harms nobody. True, he may have lost a great life partner, but that will never be known so why speculate. There are many women out there and he will find another. So will she. This is why I am very confused as to why there is so much written about this topic all over the web. Unless I am missing something, what is the problem? Im also confused as to why people -mostly women – attempt to offend men who state that they dont want to marry women who behave this way even though those same men mind their own business and dont denigrate others for making their life partner choices.

Jess says:
December 22, 2010 at 11:07 am
For the most part I agree with you. Where indeed is the crisis or harm?